 I am in a delimma. pls help |
Omatupa
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| Saturday, 13. March 2010 at 13:45 |
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I am in a dilemma
I am a student at one of the Namibian institution, I currently involved with three girls. For the sake of explanation and anonymity i am going to call them A, B, C.
Girl A
She is a student like me, but from a different institution in Namibia. I am dating her for 9 months now. I used to love her, but not anymore. What I mostly like about her is that she is good in bed and pleases me sexually. That’s why I don’t want to call off the relationship. I am endlessly growing tired of her. The only thing keeping us together is sex.
Girl B
She was in grade 12 last year, currently upgrading. I have known her since childhood. I never loved 1 bit. I only wanted to have sex with her, but as we grew older it became evident that I wasn’t going to have sex with her unless we get involved in a relationship. In that process she fell deeply in love with me, she is endlessly asking me not to disappoint her because she loves me a lot. The only reason im not breaking up with her is because I don’t want to hurt her.
Girl C
Currently in high school, grade 11. I met her 2 weeks ago. We get along really well, and I feel like I have known her my whole life. I am falling in love with her as days go by. She also feels same way about me. She knows about girl A. I recently made a move on her and she gave me the green light provided I leave girl A.
I don’t know whether I must leave A and go for C, pretend to leave A so I can have C, leave A and B to stay with C?
When I was writing this I had a famous say in mind “u never appreciate what u have till u lose it, but u will also not know what u are missing till u get it.
Please advise me to make an informed decision.
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IK
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| Saturday, 13. March 2010 at 22:59 |
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Lol, thats an algebraic problem bro!
I would suggest you calm down and then Leave whoever 2 for whoever 1 you love most. You can not love More than one. So here are the possible solutions.
1. Leave A & B, stay with C
2. Leave B & C, stay with A
3. Leave A & C, stay with B
4. Leave Both A, B & C: That's if you love neither of them
I think you should first work on your Sex addiction....lol. Maybe you don't even love girl C, you might just want to sleep with her, think about it.
Good luck Bro!
IK
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Steam
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| Tuesday, 16. March 2010 at 10:46 |
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What a Catch-22! Its appearing to be a No-win situation too... but im glad that complicated circle of yours was made clear by the previous person. Anyhow, i dont blame you...afterall, thats what men are mostly known for by women. No woman can argue against that! You are a good man coz you consider such sayings as "u never appreciate what u have till u lose it, but u will also not know what u are missing till u get it!" i think its quite convincincing personally.
In life, sometimes it doesnt have to be about that complete love... the kindo love that makes your heart tick all the time you see that person... you are grown up now im sure and the least you could do is knowing what you want in life. It can be that you are just with a person, and that person makes you complete in a whole lots of ways. She is there when you need her, she does all that matters in your life... your lives are moving at the same pace, she will offer all that you will need, and that person to me sounds like none of this girls here. The closest it can come is with "Girl C", and that to me is the best girl for you.... only that, like i said your lives, ambitions and interests might not be moving at the same pace, considering that she is in Grade 11... but if you are fine with that, then i dont see why you are not giving it a go-ahead!
What i see as a problem in Girl A, well...knowing that you are only sexually attracted to her and nuthin more is really dishearteaning and deppressing.. although she really offers all she has to. You dont feel nuthin and thats not gonna work on the love side, unless as you said sexually yes! There are people you simply cant get the best of both worls and thats a fact, and she myt just seem to be the one! Im glad to see that its not too late with Girl B, she gave u a go ahead and she begs of you not letting her down. Its time you get your acts together and stand up for as a man. i understand you have all three wonderfull women there, but you know them better than me... Just do what you think is ryt for yourself and pick one for relationship sake. Work on the best when you still have the good, before the bad appears!
If its advice you want from me...Take Girl B, and get out-o-here! She seem to be some1 who will transform into your ideal woman! Dont play ALL, play ONE or NONE!
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Omatupa
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| Wednesday, 24. March 2010 at 19:23 |
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Thanks a lot guys 4 your educative responses, i really appreciate it. I will try to do the right thing
i will try to update u on any recent development which might require your advice.
Anyways i apologise 4 replying late, i was extremely of busy.
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Dai
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| Monday, 29. March 2010 at 16:18 |
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what a womaniser? Playing with young gal's feelings
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Vmboy sha Chaze
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| Monday, 29. March 2010 at 17:12 |
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What makes me angry is when a womaniser expresses his pride for such actions.. Instead of regretting, some men jump to joy after finishing counting the number of girls that fell prey to their awkward actions.
Ndate Rhymes, pls BREAK THE CHAIN,, even Tiger Woods, John Terry and our own Jacob Zuma are now considering breaking the sexual network, so we also expect u to do the same ndate..
One more last thing, MAY GOD FORGIVE FOR HURTING SO MANY INNOCENT GIRLS.
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Dai
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| Tuesday, 30. March 2010 at 13:34 |
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This guy Rhymes.......is completely stupid! Sorry to say this, but how on earth can you think of writing this? Deeep down you know what you have done to this ladies is wrong. Yu just a coward and selfish! Leave the gals, they have brighter futures ahead rather than wasting their time with a............like you.
Like Vmboy said, you should break the chain ....towu toola mo ngaa.
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Omatupa
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 03:20 |
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Dai, Insulting me won't do u any good......neither will it solve anything, whats done is done thats water under the bridge.
I know what i did is wrong, but when i wrote that post i was honest to the core. I acknowledge that i might have been selfish, but im definetly not a coward, neither am i stupid. I have admitted my mistakes and i was just looking for advice on what decision i should make.
when i decided to write that post, that was my first step to admitting my problem.....or do u think i posted that for fun? seriously?
Get your head out of the gutter and start thinking logically.....u have no idea of how many people do this things and are not willing to admit that they are hurting people even after being caught. so please don't crucify me for my honesty..
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Omatupa
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 03:33 |
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Vmboy im not boasting bra, i was clearly stating the facts deep down from my heart. im not a womaniser i just took opportunities that presented themselves, call me an 'opportunist' instead....... im taking a step on breaking the chain. GOD IS FOR ALL, IM NO EXCEPTION, I BELIEVE HE WILL FORGIVE ME!!!!
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Vmboy sha Chaze
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 09:04 |
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Ok o k ok ok Young Rhymes..
i get u.. God will forgive u ofcourse but those girls will find it difficult to forgive u coz u made a permanent damage to all three of them.. oh god forbid....
U cannot repair the damage u have caused,,,, I can just imagine how unsatisfied they were in bed... So my brother just get one of them that u can completely satisify coz i doubt u can satisfy even 1 and half of them,lol.
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Van persie
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 09:43 |
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Oh neh mani people why do u think out of the box? Rhymes just wanted advice and that means he accept the mistake he made, insulting him will not take you any where as he said neither will solve the problem, mistakes r made by us and its us to rectify them.........Lets help the brother forget the past and lets move forward..
Ryhmes my brother I think u know both well, my advice for you is to leave Girl A and C , go for girl B because u know her from her childhood, I personally I prefer dating a person that I known her from childhood .......
Van persie
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Ncee
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 14:38 |
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I hope I will not meet a guy like u in my life. u need to change before its too late although what is done is done arleady the worst is just 2 cum if u dont push the apply the brake soon.you want 2 have sex with more than one partner? brother u are risking ur life, there is possibility that one of these gals is doing exatly de same thing 2 u and I guess u wouldnt like that 2 happen to u, well "do unto others wat u what them 2 do to u" (wat goes around comes arnd) guess wat will happen if smething goes wrong in between............ u wldn't even wat 2 hear it.
brother make the right choice and stay with the gal that u love and can love.... OTHERWISE U ARE DIGGING UR OWN GRAVE!?
ALL THE BEST BRO!!
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[Post edited by: Ncee on 07/4/10 2:41 PM]
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Dai
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 15:27 |
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This is unbelievable and i dont even expect to hear it from you. Thats what you are and yes, you are very stupid. How can you fall for those people and here you are claiming to be innocent. It is true that you are playing with other people's feelings for your own satisfaction. Dont you think of others well being? And yet you are claiming that you have admitted your selfishness.
You are still young and you have a brighter future ahead, so do the young gals. Instead of calling people to get their head out of the gutter and start thinking logically, you should be ashamed of yourself. You simply dont know what logic is and yes, you are not ashamed to name them ABC, 3 ladies and you still you just woke up from your bed well and thinking straight, boosting that you are a man and yet you are finding it difficult to opt for one?
Oh man, your life is just in a mess at such young age and please sort your life out and leave the gals to go ahead with their life.
This has pissed me off, really! You cant admit your own mistake by committing another one and blaming people for what you know is wrong and i think thats the mentality in our head. This is just about you and your self satisfaction and you are not considering the life of others.
Just admit it that you are wrong and people will be able to advice you accordingly and properly.
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Dai
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 15:50 |
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Van persie, for your information, It is not about thinking out of the box, it is about admitting our mistakes and work on a way forward. You are even trying to solve a problem with another one. I mean a big problem. You are telling your friend that he shud go for C and yet you are mentioning childhood-knowing. Unless he shud go for B, if "childhood" is your main key here. Rhyme just feel (a thought) that he know the lady C her whole life but this is just a thought.
Everyone know that this post is wrong and contradicting. Why re you guys failing to use your common sense. We need to be honest here, and advice a person properly rather than showing him a wrong road. I think i should also give you advice : Knowing someone from childhood, wont help a thing in a relationship.....if you dont know, you will never learn to know the person completely even if you have been with him or her for 100 years. Every day is a learning experience in a relationship. I can be with you, staying with you, playing together, eating together, sleeping together, but there might be 1000 things that you wont know about me......so your advice is wrong on that. Dating someone that you just met today and someone that you have known for many years, wont do anything.....unless the person is honest, open and truthful.
He already has got an answer from his post : A is just for sex, B there is no love while C i guess there is affection. We need to be filtering things before we post them and i am not cruxifying any one, I just dont beat around the bush, i clear my mind. We all make mistakes and it is good to ask then making a stupid mistake but
NEVER BEAT A DOG WITH A BONE IF YOU FIND IT EATING UP YOUR MEAT, cos it will think that you are praising it.
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Vero
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 16:49 |
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Oops Let me try to get into the topic too.
Dai, this guy might be stupid or whatever you want to call him, but believe me out of ten guys, only him can reveal this kind of trueth. For me I belive cheating or being involved in multirelationships is a men's thing. But atleast he have the guts to face the reality and seak for help. He is WRONG yes and everybody knows it, but who hasnt made mistakes in life? In my opinon this guy really wants to be assisted so that he can break the chain as of you have mentioned earlier.
Gentlemen, there is no one who knows these three ladies better than yourself. But let me tell you one thing, sex should not be the reason for a relatioship otherwise we will conclude that all you want is JUST SEX and nothing else. Make the right choice and apply a bit of maturity. Do not complicate these gal's lives especially that they are still school kids.
Good luck
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THE MIGHTY CARETA
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| Wednesday, 07. April 2010 at 18:06 |
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You have an extensive sexual network there ol chap AIDS is real you still have a bright future ahead of you I wouldnt like to be in your situation rather settle 4 1 of them and build a meaningful relationship because you will not be able to share yourself equally amongst all of them and as they say if you dont use it you lose is somebody else may just plug in and infect your entire network
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Van persie
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| Thursday, 08. April 2010 at 09:36 |
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yoo I raise my case before this go far then I thought but then all I know is tht calling him stupid will not take you any where neither solve the problem........ It also takes one to notice others....
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Omatupa
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| Thursday, 08. April 2010 at 22:38 |
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Thank you all for your replies....Vmboy, Van persie, Ncee, Vero, Careta2007 and even Dai.
@Van Persie
Thank you for your good advice and thanks for understanding that when I posted this post, I merely wanted advice because I realised all the wrongs I have done and as I want to leave my pass mistakes behind and refresh my life. To start a life free from lies, hurting and guilt before it’s too late. And that is exactly what I intend to do. You understand, cause u are human.
Thank you
@Ncee
It is true i need to change..............On hoping that u don’t meet a guy like me, i am hoping u pray u don’t meet a guy like me. But how do u differentiate me from any other guy walking down the street? How sure are u that u haven’t met a guy like me already or even worse than me for that matter? Don’t make my situation feel special.....anyways thanks for the advice, i hope it helps me to my grave digging spade down.
thanks
@ Vero & Careta2007
Thanks for appreciating my honesty guys. U have just echoed all the aspects that made me to realise i have a problem that i need to address it very fast.
Thanks
@Dai
As an intellectual i have always refrained myself from making fallacious arguments. I have always tackled the argument itself rather than the person making it. But for you i will make an exception, because u just don’t get it.
Is your skull that thick that u can’t get simple details offer simple advice? From your replies it looks like you are advising me against something that i am about to do rather than telling advising me on the way forward. Telling me that i shouldn’t have done what i did won’t change what i did. Calling me stupid won’t help either, its like u your forcing me to admit that i am stupid. If stupidity makes me admit that what i did is wrong and makes me want to change for the better, then i am proud to be stupid. I am not ashamed to name the girls ABC, i did that for anonymity sake and for laying down the facts clearly.
What struck me most about u is that u are nothing but an ignorant, naive bitch. Who lack knowledge and life experiences. It is like u are not from earth let alone from Namibia. Do u even socialise with normal people and just hear what they talk and do, have you ever been involved in a relationship? Please get off your high horse. You are refusing to see reality as it is. Its like u wrote a lot of that crap just to impress some1. I certainly don’t appreciate most of your illogical advices. I think you probably watch a lot of American talk shows. You are nothing but a wannabe Oprah, and u are doing a lousy job trying.
The only person not using their common sense here is you. You have an absurd line of thinking. You are trying to feed me with a lot of farfetched philosophical bullshit. What you are failing to understand is that I ADMIT THAT WHAT I DID IS WRONG! AND I REALISED I COULD NOT GO ON LIVING THE WAY I DID THAT IS WHY I DECIDED TO SEEK ADVICE. I am not saying don’t criticize me, its fine to criticize as long as you don’t go to the extent of thinking that u or me can change the past.
[Post edited by: Rhymes on 08/4/10 10:40 PM]
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