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 dont know how i tell him...... |
Juvine
Number Posts: 120
Last Post: 12.08.2011, 13:01
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| Tuesday, 09. March 2010 at 16:12 |
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My problem is, there is this one guy, he love me dearly, he has been trying me ever since i met him at varsity, i once told him i dont love him, since then he seems understood and stop contacting me, now he is here again and very much determined as he heard we (me and ex) broke up. seriosily i jus love/like him as a friend/brother, i want to tell him so but just afraid to hurt/ lose him again( as a friend) and i know if i lead him on he will take it the other way.
How can i tell him i am not interestedin him as a lover and still be freinds? cos one thing is i am not ready for a relationship just yet and the other he is jus not my ideal man.
[Post edited by: Juvine on 11/3/10 8:40 AM]
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 Re: dont know how i tell him...... |
Steam
Number Posts: 125
Last Post: 28.11.2011, 08:51
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| Friday, 12. March 2010 at 13:12 |
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My dear Juvine!
Im glad to hear you say he is not your ideal man and you dont love him up to a point of a lover but rather as a brother... thats good of you to say. Anyhow, there are always so many things to be considered when it comes to a relationship... will elaborate more later on that! For me personally, i dont see anything wrong with him wanting to be with you. Thats natural, and im sure he has his reasons for loving you... we dont ask for loving a person, it just happens! I also like the part of him giving you that space to breathe, up until the point you broke up with your man. That tells how much of a gentleman he can be and its undisputed. I also understood why he had to put more effort on making you his woman, also eventually is not the same thing you want. FINE! Well, it can be that you give him some hope atleast....by not being straight forward with him...I understand that!
The truth is for a guy, its really diificult for him to be told that he is just loved as a brother... "Dont even try that angle!". Most especially when it comes out of the mouth of a person you love dearly and unconditionally. For you to understand that, you have to put yourself in his shoes...what if it was you? Lets say as a man and not a lady as you are. And believe me, if you get the answer to that then i suppose that will be the answer to the problem.. Let me not add more burden on your shoulder and just advice you to be straight forward with him... for once, hjust tell him... its not gonna work, the right time for that would have been there but unfortunately its not... tell him you dont want to make a decision you both will regret later..its better we just end at the friendship if he is fine with it.. tell him politely....and only then perhaps he will get the whole point..
On the other hand, make sure when you do that you dont make the biggest mistake of your life thinking that he is not the man, just to see later he is... hope he will still love you like he loves you now...then i will say, the bread just fell out of the mouth! Its already noted that we dont realise what we have until we lose it.. im not convincing you to go to him though... just that the ball is in your hands now, its up to you to see whether you are throwing it in the ryt direction. My advise is that if you decide otherwise, just go easy on him! You wouldnt want your friend to go sour, stranger is better but for a friend is something else.... Take care of yourself girl! Just spin your head around it, im sure everything will work out just fine!
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| Re: dont know how i tell him...... |
Juvine
Number Posts: 120
Last Post: 12.08.2011, 13:01
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| Friday, 12. March 2010 at 13:46 |
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Thanx Steam, i do really appreciate your advice.
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| Re: dont know how i tell him...... |
Kapuu
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Last Post: 07.05.2010, 09:53
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| Friday, 12. March 2010 at 14:30 |
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Juvine
That is Jackpot. U throw in one dollar U win 1000. Sometime U throw in 1000 then U go home with Zero. It only depends if you are lucky. I had a friend whom I regarded as a sister, later I fell in love with her and decided to quit my zigzaging relationship because of her.
Things did not go as we expected and now we are big enemies. So if he is not your ideal man PLEASE DON'T!!!!!!
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| Re: dont know how i tell him...... |
Juvine
Number Posts: 120
Last Post: 12.08.2011, 13:01
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| Friday, 12. March 2010 at 15:54 |
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Eish thanx man
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