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 My GF has a kid with her ex |
Mr. Skeleton
Number Posts: 58
Last Post: 11.05.2010, 13:13
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| Tuesday, 16. February 2010 at 14:35 |
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I love my girlfriend so much and she knows this too. But eish, she has a three year old son with her ex and im not at peace with this. Even before i proposed her i knew she had a kid but now its turning out that its not easy as i thought.
Let me just confess that i hate that little boy and i have no reasons for this, sometimes i fake my attitude and smile at the poor boy, but deep down i dont like him.
I have no grudges with the father of the boy. But i love my girlfriend so much, but i hate being a stepdad.
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 Re: My GF has a kid with her ex |
Vmboy sha Chaze
Number Posts: 649
Last Post: 26.01.2012, 12:22
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| Tuesday, 16. February 2010 at 15:47 |
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Mr skeleton, i m sorry that you find yourself in that situation man, but unfortunately this is not a situation of multiple choice where you can choose and leave one, but its rather a situation of loving them both or dropping them both.
Your GF has a kid that is not yours, but you have to either love both your chick and her son or drop the relationship if you are not ready.
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| Re: My GF has a kid with her ex |
junicky
Number Posts: 49
Last Post: 23.01.2012, 15:02
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| Tuesday, 16. February 2010 at 17:47 |
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mr skeleton, u are not the only one in this situation, and u are being honest........... But as u said u luv ur gal, so be prepared to see this boy in your life time coz u cannot seperate one blood. i think u should be honest with her for this matter even if its not easy and make sure she is aware of ur luv 2 her. man! what if it was ur own and its just an innocent boy. please find a place 4 him in ur heart if its possible.
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| Re: My GF has a kid with her ex |
Vmboy sha Chaze
Number Posts: 649
Last Post: 26.01.2012, 12:22
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| Wednesday, 17. February 2010 at 08:13 |
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JUnicky, Mr skeleton said that he always tries to fake loving the poor boy but just cant. He says he has tried but failing.....
SO the only answer is to love both or neither of them,,,, but this again he says is too difficult.
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| Re: My GF has a kid with her ex |
Dai
Number Posts: 821
Last Post: 16.12.2011, 10:53
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| Thursday, 18. February 2010 at 11:57 |
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Mr. Skeleton, i am glad to see that you are honest but you are totally unfair to your galfriend and to her little boy. When you proposed her, you knew that she had a boy and you fell in love with the same woman from the beginning. This are the things that you were supposed to consider from the beginning. If you knew that you cant handle her child, why did you propose her in the first place? And why didnt you tell her that you dont like her boy....cos i am sure you havent talked about it? How can you hate an innocent child? If it was the father, then i would understand. Remember, when you hate the child, there is part of of your galfriend you hate too, her heart and make no mistake is she finds out, she will hate you for the rest of her life.
When you get involved with a mother, expect to love her and her child. Imagine if you get married to this lady, will you not support her child just because you hate the boy? Will you not be a stepdad to the child? You are very selfish, self-centered and yes, liar and very stupid! Imagine, how will you feel if someone hates your child? Mr. one thing you should know......a relationship with someone with a child, you should be torelant! The child will always bonded to the mother, and learn to accomondate the father of the boy too, cos as long as you are with this gal, you will have to see the image of the boy,whether you like it or not!
If you dont want to be a stepdad, stop playing games and move on with ladies who dont have kids.....and pray not to go through the same route, most gals have kids and i wonder how many times you will bounce back jsut because of kids! Stop pretending to be fine with the whole thing while you are not! You are not in love with this chick, not at all!
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| Re: My GF has a kid with her ex |
wanki
Number Posts: 22
Last Post: 18.05.2010, 17:31
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| Friday, 19. February 2010 at 11:03 |
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Mr u re just in a problem...bra!, ok try to see if there is any way u can win the case... like geting the kid live with his granny either side and then u can enjoy the freedom, atleast when he is grown up yes, he will read your mind and give you guys space to do your things. Really i cant live with it too...and the thing is most sweet gals of 18 to 31 have 1 or two kids!
some gets tweens first and a third 1 my dear its big issues, u cant...... ladies forgive me!
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| Re: My GF has a kid with her ex |
Mr. Skeleton
Number Posts: 58
Last Post: 11.05.2010, 13:13
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| Monday, 22. February 2010 at 09:58 |
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Thanks Wanki for the advice. And i think taking the lil boy to go stay with the granny is the best soultion at least for now.
My dear Dai, i understand you, but though i know that its difficult to believe that i love my girlfriend due to my hatred towards her ka baby- -- all i can say is that god knows that i trully love my girlfriend so much. Its just that being a step dad is not easy. U have to love the both even if your heart does not allow.
However, i feel sorry for the ka boy coz i know he is innocent, but i would be more happier if my girlfriend didnt have a child with her ex.
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| Re: My GF has a kid with her ex |
eliz
Number Posts: 38
Last Post: 12.11.2010, 12:10
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| Friday, 05. March 2010 at 11:53 |
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Mr. Skeleton fromt he look of things, you dont have a child. ma dea you did not specify your actual problem but in this case im going to specify it for you. your problem is that your GF has a child with her X, which is only part of the problem, but your actual and main problem is that you wish to have that kid with her and you wish to be the one who gave her that 1st kid. you cant stand accepting the fact that the boy is not yours and there is a bond between your GF and her X which is making you feel that if that boy was not there, then your GF will only be bonded to you.
this is actually a normal feeling but yet very dangerous. you could end up hurting inocent pple like that boy coz he does not knw wat you feel neither does the mother. remember for a mother the man that does not love her child is nothing but trash, immediately if she hears that you dont love her kid then the whole fling that you had will becum nothing (meanigless) even forgotten. if you really love this gal as you are claiming then you should love everything that is made up of her and that is supposed to be automatic.
please as Vmboy said that its either you take both of them or leave both of them you cannot separate a mother from a child, jst look at hw animals fight wen saeparated frm their young ones wat more do you expect from a human being. i would kindly ask you to feel your galfriend's pain dats if you really feel for her. besides being a lover for you she is a mother and i can assure you that the bond betwn her and her child is definately stronger then the one that exist betwen you 2.
so pls play gentle and be fair.....
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